Recognizing Girl Bullying: 8 Toxic Forms of Bullying Among Girls – and How You Can Help

Bullying affects both boys and girls, but the forms and dynamics often differ. "Girl bullying" is characterized by subtle and indirect methods that can have a profound emotional impact.

Boys also exhibit specific patterns. Beyond the classic forms of bullying, the following eight ways illustrate how these differences manifest, along with four key thematic areas: group dynamics, sexualization of attacks, body shaming, and sexualized rivalry.  

Group Size and Dynamics

Boys:  

• Bullying among boys often happens in larger groups, as the behavior is sometimes tied to demonstrations of power or status.  

• Groups tend to act more aggressively, leading to physical violence or overt insults.  

• The group has a clear hierarchy, and the dynamics are often competitive.  

Girls:  

• Bullying among girls typically occurs in smaller, close-knit groups that operate subtly and manipulatively.  

• The behavior is often covert and prolonged, e.g., through rumors, social exclusion, or influencing others.  

• Group dynamics rely more on emotional bonds, loyalty, and control over social networks.  

Sexualization of Attacks

Body Shaming

Sexualized Rivalry

Here are eight forms of girl bullying, how they work, how parents can recognize and respond to them, and approaches for talking with affected children.

Social Exclusion

Girls are intentionally excluded from social groups, leading to feelings of loneliness and insecurity.  

• Impact: The victim feels worthless and socially isolated.  

• Example: A girl is never invited to birthday parties, even though everyone else in the class is.  

• How to Respond:  

  • Reassure your child that they have value, regardless of others.  

  • Encourage them to form new friendships in other settings (e.g., clubs or hobbies).  

  • Help them set boundaries confidently.  

• Message: "I’m sorry you’re feeling excluded. You have so much to offer, and some people will appreciate that. Let’s think together about where you can meet kind people."  

Rumors and Gossip

Relationship Manipulation

Psychological Control

Cyberbullying

Sarcasm and Subtle Insults

Exploiting Group Dynamics

Secret Sabotage

Conclusion  

Girl bullying is subtle but just as harmful as other forms of bullying. Parents play a crucial role by listening attentively, showing understanding, and developing solutions with their child. Empathy and patience are key to supporting adolescents and giving them the confidence they need to navigate this challenging phase.